• Love you, Ma

    The day I discovered my dad was gay came after a conversation I had with him in which I asked why he didn't have a girlfriend. He said something about … Read More...

    Love you, Ma
  • Mom Said Yes

    Mom, I am probably too hard on you. I might want to blame you for staying married to dad, or judge you for this or that, but when it comes down to it, … Read More...

    Mom Said Yes
  • I wanted you to have a father

    My mother had known for decades that Dad was gay. He told me so in 1975 when he came out to me. It would be another decade before I had the nerve … Read More...

    I wanted you to have a father
  • Happy Mother’s Day, Mrs. Bechdel

    Days and days and days That's how it happens Days and days and days Made of lunches And car rides And shirts and socks And grades And … Read More...

    Happy Mother’s Day, Mrs. Bechdel
  • Mama

    My mama was born in a tiny town in West Virginia. So tiny and insignificant I've never put its name to memory. Her mom, my grandma Bittenger, was a … Read More...

    Mama
  • A healing dance

    Mom and Dad dancing. Yes, dancing. That's where my healing happened. September 22, 2007, Eduardo and I's wedding day. One of the happiest and most … Read More...

    A healing dance
  • My last big question of Dad

    Mom had been gone for two years. We lost my little sister in 1979. My remaining siblings were out of town. Today it was just Dad and me. It was … Read More...

    My last big question of Dad
  • A Hallmark Moment

    From the time I was an adolescent, buying a Father's Day card for my dad was always challenging. Rows upon rows of greetings depicting fishing poles, … Read More...

    A Hallmark Moment