For Me, There is No Question

+ACY-nbsp+ADs Recently a closeted man said to me, +ACI-It would have been better for you if your father had never came out to you.+ACI I've had a lot of interesting or ignorant or hurtful things said to me in relation to the fact that my father was gay, but none of them made my whole body burn and want to … [Read more...]

Dear Dad

Dear Dad, I hope this Father's Day you feel free to be happy. You are retired and your hardest days, I believe, are behind you. You live in LA and get to see famous people all the time. Your favorite thing in the world+ACE You get to live close to me and to Axel, your grandbaby. You have overcome so … [Read more...]

Mama

My mama was born in a tiny town in West Virginia. So tiny and insignificant I've never put its name to memory. Her mom, my grandma Bittenger, was a verbally abusive and hateful person. She told my mother her entire life she was ugly and worthless. My mom could not wait to move away from home. At … [Read more...]

Laughter

When I started doing standup I had not planned on telling any jokes about my father. Prior to that experience I had a long history of being a comedic actress and writer, but I never used my personal life as material. I thought it was exploitive. I've never been a fan of reality-based … [Read more...]

The Glass Closet

When I think of closets, I think of them as dark hiding places. I think of isolation. I think of lacking air. I am not gay, so I don't know what the closet is like for my father who is. I can only tell you what it's like to see his coming out, a process that to this day is incomplete. It is a … [Read more...]