I Would Rather Know

Should I tell my children? That is a question I have been asked by a number of gay men over the years who are closeted in straight marriages in repressive cultures and do not plan on leaving their wives. The conversations go something like this: What if my children find out from someone else, … [Read more...]

Closet Contents

When you hear the phrase +ACI-coming out of the closet+ACI you probably do not immediately think of the significance of the word +ACI-closet.+ACI We all know what a closet is. It is the space we hang up clothes, the space as kids we threw everything into when mom said +ACI-You're not going anywhere until you clean … [Read more...]

“Can you suggest some tips for parents coming out to children?”

This request recently came to us from a straight spouse: +ACI-Could someone do a blog post with suggestions on how to tell children that one parent is gay? My wife is gay and she's moving in with her girlfriend soon with my children. I fully support my kids' mom in being who she really is and I adore … [Read more...]

Gillian & Steven respond to Michael’s Letter

The following comments are in response to Michael's letter. Steven:?? Micheal, I don???t think you need to wait until you have a partner. My father told me at home because my mother thought it was best we knew. When my dad told my sister and I we saw the relief in is face. There are … [Read more...]

Dear Gay Dad Project: “Should I come out to my kids now or wait until I have a partner?”

I am a 42 year-old divorced father of two and yes, I am gay+ACE Proudly embracing that fact now. I am out to all of my friends and coworkers but not my children. I happened across this site and I'm in desperate need of advice. My ex-wife knows I'm gay and has for some time+ADs she does not feel the kids … [Read more...]