Long Without a Tribe

+ACY-nbsp+ADs There must be others like me. Where are they? It took me more than three decades to even ask this question. The journey began on Father's Day, 1975, when I asked my dad if had ever been unfaithful to Mom. He'd always been a shameless flirter. I was 24. He stunned me by … [Read more...]

Dad’s Secret

There is a photo. It???s my first Christmas. I am barely walking, and holding a giant red stocking, with a huge innocent smile on my face. My dad is sitting in front of the Christmas tree, reaching toward me. Grinning. It looks like a greeting card, like the perfect family. And if you didn???t know … [Read more...]

Meeting Dad’s Boyfriend

The 30-something me in this photo smiled for my mother. Yet underneath that smile was an anxious young woman carrying her father's deep secret. Dad, then in his late 60s, had come out to me ten years earlier. I'd pushed him to admit he'd been unfaithful to my mother, with other women I … [Read more...]

Meeting The Men In Dad’s Life

Meeting Dad's new boyfriend was never easy for me. The first one, Terry, was when I was only 13 and I didn't know him more than as a friend of my dad's. We probably met over the passenger seat of Dad's car as I piled into the back with my little sister, heading to a bowling alley or out for lunch on … [Read more...]

Dad’s Partners

My dad had two long-term gay partners in his lifetime. He said he was lucky in that way because some people never get that -- ever. His first partner Jim was his partner long before I knew he was one. When I met him I was probably 5 years old and he was presented as a roommate. It wasn't until … [Read more...]