Dear Dad, The grandkids are alright

So, Dad, your great-granddaughter told me a story. That little girl who went to you so easily when she was only a year old, is all grown up and she's lovely. She graduated from college and works professionally in DC now. You'd be so proud of her, and of her younger sister, too. She and the … [Read more...]

Dear Dad

Dear Dad, I hope this Father's Day you feel free to be happy. You are retired and your hardest days, I believe, are behind you. You live in LA and get to see famous people all the time. Your favorite thing in the world+ACE You get to live close to me and to Axel, your grandbaby. You have overcome so … [Read more...]

Love you, Ma

The day I discovered my dad was gay came after a conversation I had with him in which I asked why he didn't have a girlfriend. He said something about that +ACI-not fitting his lifestyle+ACI then dropped me off at home without discussing it further. Those weren't buzz words in the mid-1970's, and while I … [Read more...]

I wanted you to have a father

My mother had known for decades that Dad was gay. He told me so in 1975 when he came out to me. It would be another decade before I had the nerve to ask Mom why she stayed. She was someone who shied away from difficult questions. But at a family gathering sometime in the 1990s, I found the … [Read more...]

Mama

My mama was born in a tiny town in West Virginia. So tiny and insignificant I've never put its name to memory. Her mom, my grandma Bittenger, was a verbally abusive and hateful person. She told my mother her entire life she was ugly and worthless. My mom could not wait to move away from home. At … [Read more...]