Love you, Ma

The day I discovered my dad was gay came after a conversation I had with him in which I asked why he didn't have a girlfriend. He said something about that +ACI-not fitting his lifestyle+ACI then dropped me off at home without discussing it further. Those weren't buzz words in the mid-1970's, and while I … [Read more...]

Mom Said Yes

Mom, I am probably too hard on you. I might want to blame you for staying married to dad, or judge you for this or that, but when it comes down to it, you're pretty amazing. You've lived a difficult life. When I think about what you have lived with, you have spent your entire life surrounded by … [Read more...]

I wanted you to have a father

My mother had known for decades that Dad was gay. He told me so in 1975 when he came out to me. It would be another decade before I had the nerve to ask Mom why she stayed. She was someone who shied away from difficult questions. But at a family gathering sometime in the 1990s, I found the … [Read more...]

Happy Mother’s Day, Mrs. Bechdel

Days and days and days That's how it happens Days and days and days Made of lunches And car rides And shirts and socks And grades And piano And no one clocks the day you disappear. Days and days and days That's how it happens Days and days and days Made of posing And … [Read more...]

Jennifer Hunt: How Did You Not Know?

+ACI-How did you not know?+ACI The million dollar question. Still brings a twinge of pain every single time, even all these years later. Maybe I did, somewhere in the depths of my mind, know that something about the man that was first my best friend, my husband, father of my children and now soon to be … [Read more...]