For Me, There is No Question

+ACY-nbsp+ADs Recently a closeted man said to me, +ACI-It would have been better for you if your father had never came out to you.+ACI I've had a lot of interesting or ignorant or hurtful things said to me in relation to the fact that my father was gay, but none of them made my whole body burn and want to … [Read more...]

January: I Envy The Honesty

Do you wish your dad had come out to you? +ACY-nbsp+ADs This has been a question I've heard more than once and I'm not really sure what the answer should be. +ACY-nbsp+ADs My father has been gone for nearly 20 years. Although I was aware he was gay, we never got the chance to talk about any of this. … [Read more...]

Hey Dad, Happy Pride

Hey Dad, It was Father's Day last week, and Mark and I were in France after a couple weeks in Italy. I thought of you while I walked along the French Riviera in search of some shade, thinking you would appreciate the beauty for about five minutes then complain of the heat and look for an air … [Read more...]

Happy Mother’s Day, Mrs. Bechdel

Days and days and days That's how it happens Days and days and days Made of lunches And car rides And shirts and socks And grades And piano And no one clocks the day you disappear. Days and days and days That's how it happens Days and days and days Made of posing And … [Read more...]

Mama

My mama was born in a tiny town in West Virginia. So tiny and insignificant I've never put its name to memory. Her mom, my grandma Bittenger, was a verbally abusive and hateful person. She told my mother her entire life she was ugly and worthless. My mom could not wait to move away from home. At … [Read more...]