Long Without a Tribe

+ACY-nbsp+ADs There must be others like me. Where are they? It took me more than three decades to even ask this question. The journey began on Father's Day, 1975, when I asked my dad if had ever been unfaithful to Mom. He'd always been a shameless flirter. I was 24. He stunned me by … [Read more...]

Dear Laura, Nothing’s Wrong With You

Dear 17-year-old Laura, I know you're having a hard time right now. What's worse, you don't understand why. After all, you're getting good grades at school. You've been accepted at UC Santa Barbara for next fall. You're kind of cute. Boys are interested in you. You're interested in … [Read more...]

Dear January, Better Than You Imagine

+ACY-nbsp+ADs Dear 17 year-old January, It will be better than you imagine. You???ve known for a few years now that your dad is gay. You aren???t sure what to think - you try to ignore it, hide it and live in shame. Mom and Dad??are just getting divorced, your world is a little crazy. Keep rolling … [Read more...]

Dear Lisa, Dad Does Love You

+ACY-nbsp+ADs Dear Lisa, What a tumultuous time you are having in this, the 18th year of your life. You have so much passion in you, and so much rage, which you will come to learn in time is simply fear. Those days when you were little in the house on Elder Lane felt so warm and cozy. You were … [Read more...]

Young Elizabeth, You are not broken.

+ACY-nbsp+ADs You Are Not Broken Dearest Elizabeth, You actually already know that you are not broken. In fact you think you are pretty fabulous. But, there is a part of you that doubts it and that part of you pretty much eats you alive for the next twenty years. At the time you are reading … [Read more...]