My mama was born in a tiny town in West Virginia. So tiny and insignificant I've never put its name to memory. Her mom, my grandma Bittenger, was a verbally abusive and hateful person. She told my mother her entire life she was ugly and worthless. My mom could not wait to move away from home. At … [Read more...]

A healing dance

Mom and Dad dancing. Yes, dancing. That's where my healing happened. September 22, 2007, Eduardo and I's wedding day. One of the happiest and most nerve wracking days of my life. Here we were at our reception, basking in the afterglow that we had made it through our ceremony, our first dance, … [Read more...]

Family is Unorthodox

My family is small+ADs just my parents and my younger sister and I. Four very strong personalities, who at times have difficulty being in the same room together, yet still have an immense love for each other. ??Family was a complicated ideal for me. One I had tried to perfect and control for as long as … [Read more...]

Uncommonly Good Family

I am lucky enough to have several forms of family in??my life. The first is obvious, the one I was born into. By the time I was two we were uncommon, and didn???t live together. I didn't have a firm grasp on why we didn't for years, and I didn???t question it. Instead I looked beyond what it meant: … [Read more...]

Dear January, Better Than You Imagine

+ACY-nbsp+ADs Dear 17 year-old January, It will be better than you imagine. You???ve known for a few years now that your dad is gay. You aren???t sure what to think - you try to ignore it, hide it and live in shame. Mom and Dad??are just getting divorced, your world is a little crazy. Keep rolling … [Read more...]