Love you, Ma

The day I discovered my dad was gay came after a conversation I had with him in which I asked why he didn't have a girlfriend. He said something about that +ACI-not fitting his lifestyle+ACI then dropped me off at home without discussing it further. Those weren't buzz words in the mid-1970's, and while I … [Read more...]

Mom Said Yes

Mom, I am probably too hard on you. I might want to blame you for staying married to dad, or judge you for this or that, but when it comes down to it, you're pretty amazing. You've lived a difficult life. When I think about what you have lived with, you have spent your entire life surrounded by … [Read more...]

Happy Mother’s Day, Mrs. Bechdel

Days and days and days That's how it happens Days and days and days Made of lunches And car rides And shirts and socks And grades And piano And no one clocks the day you disappear. Days and days and days That's how it happens Days and days and days Made of posing And … [Read more...]

Dear Laura, Nothing’s Wrong With You

Dear 17-year-old Laura, I know you're having a hard time right now. What's worse, you don't understand why. After all, you're getting good grades at school. You've been accepted at UC Santa Barbara for next fall. You're kind of cute. Boys are interested in you. You're interested in … [Read more...]

Jennifer Hunt: How Did You Not Know?

+ACI-How did you not know?+ACI The million dollar question. Still brings a twinge of pain every single time, even all these years later. Maybe I did, somewhere in the depths of my mind, know that something about the man that was first my best friend, my husband, father of my children and now soon to be … [Read more...]